Stories bring us together

Stories help us literally get on the same wavelength as the people we are with. They not only listen to what we are saying but also experience what we are saying. Even simple stories rev up brain activity and sync us up with the people around us.

Listen to people’s problems

Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.

Decision Maker

By assuming there are only a few people worth listening to, Diminishers operate as Decision Makers: when the stakes are at their highest, they rely on their own knowledge or an inner circle of people to make the decision. because diminishers assume that they are the smartest in the room so they don’t listen to […]

Listening With Intent to Reply

Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They’re either speaking or preparing to speak. This type of quote always makes me think of Fight Club and why the main character goes to support groups. He goes because when you’re dying “people really listen.”

Empathy is Whole Body Listening

Empathy is listening not only with the ears, but with the heart. It involves deeply listening not just to what another is saying with their mouth, but what message is coming from their core. From Play Nice In your Sandbox