When you cling too tightly to one identity, you become brittle. Lose that one thing and you lose yourself.
When you can do it “good enough” on autopilot, you stop thinking about how to do it better.
People get so caught up in the fact that they have limits that they rarely exert the effort required to get close to them.
Conventional wisdom holds that motivation is the key to habit change. Maybe if you really wanted it, you’d actually do it. But the truth is our real motivation is to be lazy and to do whatever is convenient.
If you want to master a habit, the key is to start with repetition, not perfection. You don’t need to may out every feature of a new habit. You just need to practice it.
There is tremendous internal pressure to comply with the norms of the group. The reward of being accepted is often greater than the reward of winning an argument, looking smart, or finding the truth. Most days we’d rather be wrong with the crowd than be right by ourselves.
One of the most effective things you can do to build better habits is to join a culture where your desired behavior is that normal behavior new habits seem achievable when you see others doing them every day.
Habits are dopamine-driven feedback loop. Every behavior that is highly habit-forming — taking drugs, eating junk food, playing video comes, browsing social media — is associated with higher level of dopamine.
Environment design is powerful not only because it influences how we engage with the world but also because we rarely do it. Most people live in a world others have created for them. But you can alter the spaces where you live and work to increase your exposure to positive cues and reduce your exposure […]
New identities require new evidence. If you keep casting the same votes you’ve always cast, you’re going to get the same results you’ve always had. If nothing changes, nothing is going to change.